Sunday, April 14, 2013

Finding The Perfect Balance

I hope everyone has enjoyed a fabulous weekend!
I have to admit, I'm a little overwhelmed... the house needed to be cleaned, I shot a wedding on Saturday so editing still needs to be done, I haven't even thought about blog posts and, oh yeah, I took some time to spend with my beautiful family too...
Is there a way to ever get it all done and feel like you're actually ahead of the game, for once?

The lovely lady behind Imprintalish (one of my fave blogs AND etsy shops) is here today with her take on finding balance... and she may or may not have a little something for you at the end of the post too... wink wink ;)


So many of us 'moms', whether we leave the house to work or stay at home, try and DO IT ALL. I know I do and I fail miserably at it. I try and cut back but then I feel as though I am missing something...lists grow longer, days shorter. It's a constant battle. 



If you follow along with my blog, Imprintalish, your probably aware of my struggles with finding the perfect balance. Balance...every mothers wish. The titles and jobs that I hold seem to constantly pile up, sometimes willingly and sometimes out of obligation...mom, wife, homemaker, graphic designer, blogger, shop owner, part time employee, chef, laundromat, doctor...really it was and still is, endless. Although I love each and ever single one of those titles, at times, being all those things proves to be very stressful. My mind never seems to be clear. The seconds that I get all to myself are spent going to the bathroom...with the door open. No matter how early I start my day or how late I stay up at night, I always seemed to be behind, and once I get ahead and even contemplate resting, everything starts to pile up again.

Looking back at everything, you know what area I was seriously lacking at? The mom part. THE MOM PART. Probably the one thing that I should be doing perfectly. Or as perfect as I could be. So I really had to have a heart to heart with myself, because that realization for me was unacceptable! If I couldn't give up one of the above titles, I needed to find a solution to make it work for our family. I still don't have all the answers, in fact, I'm probably really far from that point. But what I do know is that the following things have made it a bit easier...


Live for the small things.
I realized that if I am missing things by being other places or doing other things, I need to start paying attention to the time I do have with my kids. It makes me happier to notice those things. To hear the laughter, not the screaming. To admire the little sticky hand prints and not sigh that you have to clean up another mess. Those kiddos are only little for so long.

Get help.
As in use your dishwasher, use the timer on your washing machine. I always throw a load in before bed, wake up in the morning and pop things in the dryer. Let the kids help you fold laundry, hand them a cloth while your dusting. Another good idea-my husband and I rotate date nights with friends of ours-both our kids are the same age and they love hanging out together. So every other week, Mike and I get a date night. It's time alone that is definitely needed and we don't have to pay for a babysitter!


Plan.
Make a weekly meal plan. Follow it.  I find it so annoying to look up and realize it's 4:30 and I haven't even thought about supper yet. Another thing I'd like to start up is preparing meals ahead in the freezer. See? It's always a work in progress, or I am a perpetual list maker...


It's OK {and even necessary} to break routine.
So you know how it goes, your days are going smoothly and then BAM! out of nowhere our well oiled schedule hits a speed bump. Temper tantrums{yours or the kids}, sickness, tears, whatever it is that makes you curl into a ball. I always find it difficult to get back into a groove when something like this happens. But I've found a way! Wanna know what it is? LET IT GO. Break your routine and have a dance party in the kitchen. Leave those emails and read a book with the kids. This is a great solution to calm your kids down and spend some quality time together. It' really does help, I swear! Take a break from whatever it was that you were doing and just be in the moment, forget what the next thing on your list was, it's not near as important as your kids :)


And finally, knowing that it will get easier as the kids get older.
I remember asking a friend of mine how she got so many things accomplished during the day. Her answer-the kids are at school! So truth be told, your struggles today will eventually disappear, {probably be replaced with different ones} but hey, it can't get any worse, right?!

I hope this helps some of you mamas in your quest for balance! I've still got a long road ahead of me in my quest, but am welcome to any tips you might have too! Stop by my blog and say hi, I'd love to hear from you :) and if your looking for something funky and comfortable to wear, stop by the shop and pick yourself up something pretty!

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29 comments

  1. I figured out a fantastic system. Take each day 15 mins at a time. :) Make a list of things you would do if you had '15 mins spare'. And when you do..get to work! :) xx

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  2. I love this. I just wrote about the management the other day. Great thoughts! :)

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  3. Balance...I never seem to get it perfect. Imprintalish looks lovely and I am excited to be a new follower :)

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  4. planning out my day and scheduling time for work, self, husband, exercise, prayer/scriptures, etc. :)

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  5. i think balance comes from delegating... from recognizing that you CANNOT do it all.

    i homeschool my 12 year old, have a chronic neuro condition, and have a blog (just starting) and etsy shop.

    i have big dreams, many times bigger than are realistic... and a lot of times balance has meant letting some of those dreams go... even if only temporary...

    but i'm also learning that i can let other people do some of this stuff... especially the stuff that doesn't count. so my sweet hubbs, so tired of seeing me struggle, hired someone to come in and do my weekly scrubbing. kidlet and i get the day to day done, but the scrubbing was killing me... leaving me physically wiped out for days. i'd much rather give up one date night a month (that i was too tired for anyway after scrubbing myself!) and have the energy and stamina to sit and do science with kidlet and stay awake thru jon stewart with hubbs... and oh my! maybe even SEW something! LOL

    $30 well spent...

    so maybe balance isn't about finding ways to make it all fit... it's figuring out what is absolutely essential that YOU be the one to do and having someone else do the rest....

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  6. @Mel-Great idea to get someone else to clean-that would be heaven! That's the best advice too-figuring out what is absolutely essential :)

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  7. I do not have kids, but I do have a job plus I go to school sometimes so it can get tough once in a while. So what has really helped me keep my stress level down is doing yoga when I wake up and before I go to bed. It might not seem like a lot but it helps :)

    XOXO, Jessica from Girl Booklet

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  8. These are seriously some great tips!
    Especially the break routine one.
    You can't plane everyday down to the T and I'm thankful for that of we'd all be pretty bored.

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  9. I try to take some alone time for me whenever possible, to get away from the stress. Doesn't always work. but hey vegging on the couch helps too!

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  10. Great tips guys :) Thanks for reading!

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  11. I find balance by always making sure that I did more things I like than things I didn't like.

    xo,
    janmloves.blogspot.com

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    1. That's a good one :) it's always more fun to do the things you love!!!

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  12. Having a planner helps me out so much, especially so i do not forget important events!!

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    1. I always think a planner is a great idea but then after a month it never gets used... I think I need a better system;) thanks for reading!

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  13. every night I always plan for the next day ^^


    Thankyou for this lovely giveaway! ^^
    hana_clay@yahoo.com

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  14. On the evening write down on piece od papre what all have to do tomorrow by the hour .. so tomorrow as I complete one - cross it of the list, it s easier when I see how thning really get done (on the paper hehe)

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  15. first I feel that being organized is the key. So we have a family calender that links between all of our cell phones and EVERYTHING goes on it. I pre-prepare everything I can food wise. And I expect everyone in the house to help out with the chores. My "me time" activity is reading. So I set aside the time I am waiting in the car line to get my son from school to read:)

    Angie

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    1. I think I need to update my phone... Is there anything they can't do??? Sometimes for me time I sit in the car with a magazine after grocery shopping ... Shh don't tell anyone!!!

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  16. I simply can't plan. When I try nothing goes right. When I don't plan all seems much better:D

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  17. I just remember to take a step back and remember who I do the things that I do for... Me and my family and that makes it better!

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  18. I take deep breaths and I think about beautiful scenes . It helps a lot :)

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  19. I gave up trying to find balance, which somehow helped...

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  20. Sometimes its better to forget about balance and just to relax and take it easy! Absolutely agree with previous comment! :-)

    Thank you for the chance!

    ksyshenka(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  21. I just try to take it one day at a time, that way if we have a bad day....

    "There's always tomorrow!"

    Sending you sunshine,
    RACHAEL

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  22. Planning my work and trying as possible to follow some sort of timetable. Even if I don't manage to do everything I planned for a day, I know I'll just do it the next day.

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  23. I try to get all the little, nagging tasks out of the way early. I try to tackle things that can be accomplished in five minutes or less. All those small annoyances can add up quickly, and it feels good to do something about them.

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