Thursday, March 19, 2015

My thoughts as an autism mama...

Last month a 9 year old Ontario boy with autism was handcuffed at school, by a police officer, during a particularly violent outburst.  The family has since decided to keep little Daniel home from school until they have all the details of the incident. They are also considering legal action.

As a mother of a 9 year old autistic son this story really hit home. I actually tried to avoid it at first because my heart immediately ached for everyone involved.

There was a time I was called to the school almost daily to help my son get through an outburst.  Thankfully, I work only minutes away and the school knew I was just a phone call away.  I remember a particular incident that had me physically restraining him for more than half an hour before finally getting him into the car with the help of 2 aides.  To put this in perspective, it took 3 grown women almost an hour to get a 7 year old child into a car.  The episodes would live us all drained... physically and emotionally.

He punched & kicked holes in walls, threw chairs, ripped papers... literally tried to destroy anything and everything within arm's reach and nothing, NOTHING could calm him.

An autistic child in the middle of a violent outburst cannot be reasoned with.
(it has taken us years to finally be able to be "a step ahead" of an outburst and to know how to diffuse the situation before it gets really bad)

Do I blame the school & the police officer... no. I wasn't there, but I would hope they had tried all other interventions & procedures before handcuffing him.  I'm hoping they had nothing but his safety & well being in mind when they put those handcuffs on him.  I hope they *though* they had no other choice.  I can't imagine anyone waking up wanting their day to end like that.  However, had my child hurt himself or another person, I would be devastated.  Do I blame the parents for breaking down, being angry and wanting to know why this happened... absolutely not!!  The mother describes breaking down in tears when finding out her son had been handcuffed... I can relate. Nothing in the world can prepare you for that.  I've walked into the school to find my child being restrained by staff... it's heartbreaking.

I hope this incident has raised awareness of the importance of having school staff and law enforcement properly trained on how to deal with these special children and their extreme meltdowns.  They need the proper training and resources to ensure this never happens again! 

I keep Daniel and his parents in my thoughts and I hope they get the answers they need to move forward from this. 

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Monday, March 16, 2015

New Hats!

A family friend is making handmade reversible bucket hats and I was quick to snatch up a few for Memphis and Ruby!  They love them!  The hats are custom made with a variety of different patterns... Ruby went for a retro look and Memphis wanted a camo one, of course!

Aren't they adorable?  The hats will go with just about anything, and I'm happy to be able to scratch that off the list of the Spring/Summer stuff I need to get!

Local readers, you can contact Wendy directly by email or phone! She makes hats for the whole family, from babies to adults and they only cost $12.50! I love the ones she made for the kids! 

I made the top 3 in both categories I was nominated over at My So Called Chaos (Popular Parent & Fierce Fashionista)... you can vote here until noon on Thursday!  

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Thursday, March 12, 2015

2015 Best of Blog Awards : I made the Top 3!!

2015 My So-Called Chaos Best of Blog Awards
 You guys!! I made the top 3 in both categories I was nominated in (Fierce Fashionista & Popular Parent)!
You can continue voting for your favorites over at My So-Called Chaos over the next week! Voting ends Thursday, March 19th at noon and the winners will be announced on the 25th.
Thanks again to whoever nominated me and to everyone that voted. I really appreciate it, you made my day!
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