The decision to hire someone to help out with household chores was YEARS in the making. Ever since I went back to work after Ruby was born (if you do the math, that'll be 5 years ago), I just never felt like I could keep my house looking the way I wanted it to. I would literally do the bare minimum to keep the house as presentable as possible. I swept numerous times a day, dusted whenever I could... but truth is the floor didn't get mopped every week, sometimes it would be 2 or 3 weeks before I could really SCRUB the bathroom (it would get a quick cleaning a few times a week)...
I was embarrassed about having anyone over. If I knew someone was coming, I'd make a mad dash to get the place cleaned to a higher standard... not that anyone, besides me, would probably even notice the dust on the baseboards or those pesky finger prints all over the windows...
Even though I could never get my house cleaned the way I wanted, I was ALWAYS cleaning. Or so it seemed. I'm not rich. Only rich people hire help. I'm not lazy either... would people think I was lazy if they found out? I just couldn't do it.
"Can we go for a bike ride, Mommy?"
"Sorry, not right now. Mommy has to do dishes & sweep the floor first"
"Can we go to the park"
"Sorry sweetie, Mommy's doing laundry..."
I can't be the only one who feels tremendous mommy guilt when I have to tell my kids I can't spend time with them... with a full-time job during the week, photography on the weekends, chores, errands, appointments... there just weren't enough hours in a day to get it all done... and I know I suffered. My children suffered for it too.
About a month ago, I sucked up all my pride and hired help.
A woman comes in once a week for about 3 hrs... and my house feels CLEAN. I love it. It's the best decision I ever made!! I've been able to spend more time with my family, and the stress of knowing I'm not able to keep it up is GONE! I still have to maintain it during the week... But it is such a weight off my shoulders.
For anyone out there who felt like I did, I would highly recommend getting help! There's no shame is not being able to do it all!!
3 Tips To Keep In Mind:
1. Do your budget. Depending on the size of your home, and the work you need help with, costs can vary.
2. Get referrals and interview the person (or service) yourself.
3. Be clear with your expectations of what you want done. The lady I hired will not be doing my laundry or stripping& making beds, for example.