Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Classy Not Trashy


For whatever reason, I'm becoming more & more aware of the ugliness of the internet.
Duh, right?

I guess I've been comfortable in my family-friendly blog bubble that I have been pretty oblivious to what really goes on out there.  Thankfully, my kids are too young to be using social media... how do parents of teenagers sleep at night?

The language and photos being posted online by teenagers & young adults is ridiculous.  Young girls showing way too much... if you know what I mean.  Beach day bikini pics are one thing.... these pouty-lipped, duckface, cleavage-baring, provocative shots are quite another!

I don't mean to come off as a prude.  There's nothing wrong with showing a little skin... heck, if I was 10 years younger and a few pounds lighter, I'd love to rock a cute mini skirt.  But these young women need to respect themselves first & foremost, if they want to be respected by others!

I'm all for self-expression.  My own daughter is only 5, and already has a style all her own... That should be celebrated... but I will be sure to teach her it's okay to be modest too.  You can be all covered up & feel just as pretty or sexy as the one who is leaving very little to the imagination.

In all honesty, it makes me sad. Sad that these girls feel like they have to be ''that'' way to get attention.  Ladies, THAT is not the attention you want!  Am I right!?
You ARE beautiful no matter what... YOU have to believe that before anyone will too!

Sorry for today's little rant, it was a full moon last night and I think I'm still in a mood.
Don't even get me started on the language young people are using nowadays.
Man... I must be getting old if I'm using terms like "young people nowadays..."
Have you visited the Facebook or twitter page of a teenager recently? Ouch.


Dress: Modcloth // Boots: Sears


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25 comments

  1. I feel you. I had to go private on twitter and you should see the filth that has been trying to requests me as a follower an what not. I go and see what they are all about and it's names with "bitch" in their username and half naked photos and tweets containing the words "suck" if you know what I mean.

    Lets. It forget the bullying too. Reason why I have gone anonymous. I was attacked by a few bloggers for a reason unknown.

    Great post. And I love your dress too ;)

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  2. I feel you. I had to go private on twitter and you should see the filth that has been trying to requests me as a follower an what not. I go and see what they are all about and it's names with "bitch" in their username and half naked photos and tweets containing the words "suck" if you know what I mean.

    Lets. It forget the bullying too. Reason why I have gone anonymous. I was attacked by a few bloggers for a reason unknown.

    Great post. And I love your dress too ;)

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  3. I completely agree with this mini rant and I just hope that when Maddie's a teenager, I've raised her well enough to be modest AT LEAST.

    Which by the way, have you noticed how not child appropriate even some kid clothes are lately?! RIDICULOUS!

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  4. I so agree!! I think even the bikini pics can get a little raunchy too though. I guess I'm just as much of a prude. ;)

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  5. Agreed!! I think you can show a little skin but carry yourself in a respectable manner. I think it all depends on what it is. I've seen some things that I wish I never had, haha. You look super xx

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  6. Amen and agreed!! I want my children to respect themselves and Jesus. Classy is a whole different thing from trashy for sure! Sadly, all too often this type of behavior is modeled by the parents.

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  7. I totally agree with you here, you still can be sexy by dressing classy and it seems many young girls aren't learning this now. For some reason, the media is teaching them wearing less is more, which is really sad.

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  8. keep it classy! love this look. thanks for linking up!

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  9. I love this.
    I'm seventeen so I'm one of those " young people". It makes me sad how girls feel like they need to dress and act..
    I'm a pretty dang modest person. I mean, I wear short shorts (not booty shorts mind you.. the only cheeks I'll show will be the ones on my face.) and tank tops, but not to the point that everything is hanging out, and I feel plenty sexy a lot of the time. Give me my favorite pair of warn jeans, a v-neck t (not a huge v though) and a pair of converse.. I feel extremely sexy. It's all about how you view and carry yourself.

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  10. I totally understand what you are saying! There is little to no modesty these days! Just go in the girls department of most stores. The clothes look like the JRs dept. Amd social media takes on a whole different world. I feel like an old lady prude sometimes when I see my teenage cousins posts. I want to tell them to put some clothes on!! Great post and great dress!! Xoxo

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  11. Absolutely in agreement ... it makes me very sad to see girls that are barely ten wearing clothes that make them look too old and don't cover anything.
    It's a recipe for disaster.
    Ruby has beautiful style and she is very classy!
    PS .. Love that dress!


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  12. Don't know where to start with agreeing with you. It is so sad to not be able to get through to these girls the multi-layered effect their behaviour has, on their own lives and on the female gender. I'm not a prude either but their is something wrong with the industries that promote this type of sexiness when intelligence, modesty, a little reserve and humour are much sexier and much more empowering. Mini mini-rant over. Good blog.

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  13. I totally agree! The worst is when you see 13 year olds acting like 25 year olds, all sexy and foul-mouthed and provocative on facebook, and they are FRIENDS with their parents! Don't the parents have the good sense to monitor their child's online behavior? Kids feel such a disconnect, like they can say or do whatever they want online because they aren't actually doing it "in front" of anyone, but really, their actions have serious and long-lasting consequences. Maybe facebook should really regulate and enforce age restrictions.

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  14. I'm learning slowly but surely not to climb down into the rabbit hole that is the internet. There's just so much that makes me cringe and want to roll into a little ball.

    I try to not just talk to my daughter about respecting herself, but be an example of it. I think there are SO many ways to be sexy and beautiful without being half naked, and I refuse to carry myself that way. Like you said, an occasional bathing suit photo is one thing. Bent-over poses, baring of cleavage and butt cheeks hanging out is not cute.

    On another note, I love your dress! I just thrifted something similar and can't wait to wear it.

    Found you via Dress for the Day. Find me at http://greenandgorgeous.net

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  15. Loving this dress! But yeah, I know what you mean about girls posting things that aren't appropriate on the internet! I'm the same age as many of the girls that do this and it makes me sad. I see this on facebook all the time--it's like they find they're worth in who comments and thinks they're sexy. And it's usually other insecure girls that leave the comments!

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  16. amen! I seriously wonder all the time where childhood went? And where parents went who care. It's really sad because those girls will have a lot of pain over time of allowing themselves to be used to easily. Pretty heartbreaking.

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  17. I'm also grateful to have been somewhat sheltered in my social media bubble - I certainly haven't had any negative feedback or vibes from other bloggers.

    But I am VERY grateful that I have two sons, and whilst they bring their own challenges it's less likely that I'll have to be sending them back to cover up!

    Thanks for joining up with WW :)

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  18. high five lady! you're right on the money!

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  19. Love love your dress and YES to your message!

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  20. Totally agree! My favorite way to be sexy is by NOT showing skin--it's far more interesting looking, I think. I mean, I'll wear a miniskirt once in a while in the summer because my husband loves it when I do....but when I do that, you can bet I won't be posting pictures all over the internet. What makes me sad is that a lot of the people putting up facebook and other social media pictures like that are young teenagers, and apparently they don't have adults in their life to teach them not to do such things, so they don't know any better and they don't realize how stuff that's on the internet can really last forever and can come back to haunt you later, and it's really sad!

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  21. My daughter is 5 too, and I'm a bit terrified about raising teenagers in this world. I will have a teenager in just 8 years. Pardon me while I go stick my head in the sand again.

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  22. Oh, and I forgot to mention that I love your dress! Especially with the boots.

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  23. Love your dress! Definitely with you on the modesty. I hope if I have a daughter someday, I can teach her that respecting yourself comes first! :) Love your blog!

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  24. I am 16 and I totally agree with this. I absolutely hate the clothes and "fashion" of my generation. I don't go on facebook often because I see all these girls trying so hard by wearing so little. Whenever I go shopping my mom and I always have a hard time finding things that look nice because a lot of stuff is made to show off everything.

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