Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Sink or Swim

The hubs rang in the new year with a new set of knuckle tattoos.

For some, maybe just 2 catchy 4-letter words that fit & sound cool... but for him, and for us, it means so much more.

It is a topic I don't touch on often here because I like to keep things positive & peachy... but life is anything but perfect, right?


I have been with him since I was 16.
Over the years I've often asked & suggested that he seek professional help.
His pride, and his stubbornness always got in the way and he never admitted that he really had a problem.  He always managed to pull himself out of the funk he was in and always managed to provide for us and get through every day... no matter what obstacles were thrown our way.

Last year was the last straw.
It's almost like he held it together just long enough for us to get Memphis' diagnosis under our belt... once he was sure Memphis was okay and we were finally equipped with answers that could help him, the hubs just lost it.

He was sinking.

Never. NEVER. Never in the 16 years we've been together have I seen him suffer so much.
He admitted he needed the help and sought it.
He was diagnosed  with depression and anxiety.
And it was bad.  Really bad for awhile.

There were days... weeks, maybe that I barely slept because I was worried about him.

I did my best to keep it all together.
You know... life goes on.  Just because my partner was dealing with depression and taking time off work to deal with it all doesn't mean everything else stops too.
Bills, school, work, the blog, my photography, housework, family time...

But we got through it.
HE is getting through it.
He is working so hard at getting better, and I couldn't be prouder.
He vows that this year is is going to ''swim'' not ''sink'' and I believe him.

I have high hopes for 2013.
Another rough year under our belt, and I feel confident this one is going to rock!
Will you sink or swim this year!?

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  1. Huge hug sent your way. LOVE the tattoo and thank you for sharing the story behind it!! Let's get our SWIM on! XOXOXO

    Kristine from The Foley Fam {unedited} Blog

  2. Aww, I love the new tat! I'm glad he admitted he needed help and got it. It's so hard to admit when you have a problem like that. Good luck with your "swim" year!

  3. Just keep swimming bro! Thanks for sharing. btw love the font on that tat.

  4. Thank you for sharing this little side of your lives. I love the tattoo. Awesome picture and such a neat idea. I see lots of swimming in your future. ((hugs)) So thankful he was willing to get help.Sometimes the hardest part is being willing and actually taking action and past that is so much easier than you thought. People are amazingly supportive. He is really lucky to have you by his side! You're the best :)

  5. It's beautiful and it fits perfectly! It takes courage and bravery to keep holding on and get help and I know you'll all get through it and come out on top. Depression and anxiety is hard, have dealt with it're all doing great!! Keep strong xx Happy New Year!!

  6. Thank you for this post. Really, thank you. My husband and I had a similar journey except the roles are reversed. I was the one that needed help and it took a long time for me to swallow my pride and get it.

    And now I choose to swim.

  7. I love the tat! I have dealt with depression all my life, I certainly know how devastating it can be. It takes a strong person to admit they need help. Blessing to your family...

  8. I have dealt with depression off and on throughout my life. I know how hard it is on me and I can only imagine how my loved ones feel. It definitely affects the whole family. Thank you for sharing your story and wishing you a peaceful new year!

  9. The best thing we can do as spouses is to support them no matter what. I know this had to be so hard on all of you. It's a testiment to your strenght and love for him that you guys are here now. Much love you you and your family. 2013 is going to rock. And as always, I'm always here if you need a friend!

  10. positive thoughts your way! Depression is a hard thing to learn to live with for everyone involved! I'm glad he's got a great support system in you :)

  11. Depression is real and so hard for us to talk about to admit to. I'm reaching out giving your huge hugs and strength. What a brave choice to get support! Love the new tattoos. They fit perfectly xoxo

  12. A little over 5 years ago, my husband finally sought treatment for alcoholism. It was a tough year, but we are so much better for it. Major kudos to your man for being brave in seeking help ~ and kudos to you for supporting his decision. Five years from now, I pray that you can look back on the tough times with gratitude. The visual reminder is absolutely beautiful!

  13. 2012 was a year of sinking for us so I'm hopeful that 2013 will be the year for swimming. Praying for you guys, friend! <3

  14. In many ways I can relate to this. I battle anxiety. It's definitely not easy, but getting help makes an AMAZING amount of difference. Believe yall WILL swim!

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