Saturday, August 4, 2012

Taking Back My Blog :: Changes ::

I started blogging YEARS ago to document our lives, specifically my new life as a new mom.

Back then, I posted sporadically and mostly about my kids. I had very few followers (only family and a few close friends).  When I started it never occured to me that ''strangers'' would eventually sign up to follow our story.

Slowly, I branched out. I started following other blogs, started making connections... starting linking up and meeting new people and I was a HOOKED.

For a little over a year now, I have kept an eye on my ''numbers.'' It's always fun to see those numbers go up even though I know in my heart most of them are not really ''following'' my blog on a daily basis. They still don't really know ME.

When people started asking me if they could sponsor my blog, I thought it was ridiculous. But I tested the waters and offered sponsor spots as giveaway prizes. It was a great success. Then I started making a little bit of money... and I used that money to sponsor larger blogs. Surprise... my numbers went up again!  Almost always around "giveaway" times (which is the point)... but then you see those numbers go down a little when the giveaway is over. That is never a good feeling.  Someone "liked" my blog for an entry, not because they enjoyed it... Then they were gone, without even giving it a chance.

And that's not what I want.
Very few of us probably do.

There are numerous posts swirling on the interwebs right now. Bloggers that are taking a stand. Some of my favorite bloggers, Framed Frosting, AbsoluteMommy and Royal Daugther Designs literally posted about this same issue, in their own voice, these past few days.

I think we are all feeling the ''unease'' that our blogging isn't really what we want it to be.

Earlier this week, I posted a note on my sponsor page that changes will be coming to the blog in September.

Today, I'm going to tell you a bit more about that.
Will I still accept sponsors? Yes, absolutely. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE meeting new people, working & collaborating with other bloggers & shop owners has been such an amazing & gratifying experience. BUT, I will be accepting LESS sponsors. Aside from a FEW larger spots that will include an option to guest post, the rest will simply be hanging out on my sidebar... with lots of encouragement and social media shout outs, of course, because I do still love the blogging community and I want to continue to support my friends & sponsors.

I do still plan to host a pretty fabulous giveaway when I reach 1000 followers because that is a milestone I AM PROUD of. Blogging is hard work... anyone who isn't a blogger doesn't understand the man hours that go into putting together a post, or a giveaway or a spotlight feature... it will be a celebration of the journey I've been on & the goals that I have met.

I do still plan on continuing my Tuesday10 linkups too... Those aren't going anywhere!
Every ''list'' that I make on Tuesdays, whichever theme, helps my readers get to know me better... and vice-versa. I might not necessarily post it EVERY Tuesday, but it'll be sticking around! I also have a few ladies left in my Fashion Days Summer Series that I'm excited about and I will still do product reviews when I have a product worth reviewing (which I do, by the way!  Bounced Blessings sent Ruby the most gorgeous dress that is totally derserving of it's own post... I can't wait to share it with you!).

Another reason I'm taking back my blog is because I don't know what September will bring. As some of you know, Memphis was diagnosed on the autism spectrum last May... this September brings a whole new challenge when he starts first grade. If this year is even half as trying as last year was, I may be too emotionally drained to be able to give my sponsors& my blog what I've given in the past. My time.

First & foremost I am Mom2MemphisAndRuby... literally. My kids and my family must come first.
I want my blog to be a happy place... but most of all I want it to be my place.

I'm taking Amanda's challenge

I'm actually very excited about this... who's still with me?

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  1. I think this is great. I've seen SO many bloggers post about this same topic, all in this week. I'm a new blogger who hasn't gotten into the sponsoring game yet on my blog, but I've won several ad spaces due to giveaways. I'm torn because, as you said, it's a great way to make connections with people and get to know them better, but at the same time, I don't want that to dominate my blog. Definitely something to think about, thanks for sharing!! :) -Mia

  2. Yes!!! After reading on Royal Daughter Designs yesterday, I got my blog back in focus. If I keep rambling in this comment, I'll end up writing a post :). But just know I'm w ya

  3. Oh I'm so excited for this! I'm in!

  4. Amen sister! My favourite blogs are the ones that continue to keep it real with every post. Even if it's a post only once a week, or month. Your blog is a space for you to let out your live so you are able to come back and relive it. It's inspiring to see all these 'big' bloggers go back to their roots and fall in love with blogging all over again.

  5. I admire your honesty & thoughtfulness with this post (all of them actually)! Bloggin is hard & finding that balance is harder.

    I read much more than I comment, sometimes because the hard stuff just hits too close to home...

  6. I have so much respect for you. I have struggled with which route to go with my blog in the past, but decided I rather have a small, slow growing blog based on true readership than trying to get numbers from give-aways, blog hops, etc. And having a child on the spectrum means that you have less time and energy to maintain a blog. I applaud your decision. Good for you!

  7. When I first started blogging that was the first thing I noticed about most blogs, they blog for readers and carter to them, and even though I just jumped on the sponsor wagon I don't plan to change why I blog. People with either love it or hate it. Good luck with this new school year! I will e stalking! :) good luck

  8. When I first started blogging that was the first thing I noticed about most blogs, they blog for readers and carter to them, and even though I just jumped on the sponsor wagon I don't plan to change why I blog. People with either love it or hate it. Good luck with this new school year! I will e stalking! :) good luck

  9. i'll be staying around - those are the blogs that i luv - true life!

  10. You go girl - for reclaiming what is yours!! I will love you and your blog either way! Hugs!

  11. This is also something I've been thinking about lately. I'm still trying to figure out how I want to maneuver back into writing about me and not letting it get out of control.

  12. Dang Lena! Thanks for the shout-outs! Seriously - thank you so much!

    And way to go! I would love to see you blog about dealing with the autism - I'm sure those blogs are out there but I don't think I follow many of them. What a great adventure you're a bout to be on - and I will enjoy reading about it!

    thanks again...

  13. Thank you so much for the link to Amanda's post and your own insights. I'm a newbie blogger and, to tell you the truth, I was getting pretty discouraged to see the content of a lot of blogs compared to the number of followers they have. I also read a post where this person got a thousand followers and she kept talking about having a lot of money to advertise with and how she kept asking people to follow her. As I read, I kept thinking that I didn't want to do any of that!! So this post is such a relief to read!!

  14. Thanks for the shout out Lena! I think what you're doing is so great. I too am hoping to get back to my blogging roots and focus it more on my life so that when I look back it will mean something, not just a bunch of fashion posts.

    I would absolutely love to hear more about your darling kids and going through the Autism testing and schooling. Keep on going girl, you're doing great!

  15. So happy that the blogs that I love to read are taking a stand. Being a mother and blogger is time consuming then adding all the challenges of sponsorship on top is exhausting.

    Will be reading and cheering with every triumph Memphis makes!

  16. Love love love this idea!! I would love to hear more about your experience with autism. As soon as I'm done promoting my Blessings Bags project and trying to get votes, I will for sure take the 2 week challenge!

    xo Shane

  17. I think your doing the right thing!! I notice the same happen to people. I think it's why I don't do giveaways and stuff like that. I feature artists and people on my own that I like. I think the lines of sponsors and stuff like that can suck the fun out of it all when you get people who only come around for free stuff, I rarely enter a contest, I never win, lol. But, mainly because of how they're run and people swarming around just for that purpose and not always because they like your blog. You do what is best for you...I enjoy your blog regardless :)) x

  18. Whoot! Love to see so many people reclaiming their space! :)

  19. LOVE this! I'm already struggling with this after only seriously blogging since June, and am trying to figure out what I will and won't do. I, like you, started my blog because I love to write about my family... and I'm determined to keep it that way! Thanks for the motivation friend!! I'm with you no matter what!

  20. Oh, and P.S. - who unfollows after a giveaway is over?? That's TERRIBLE!! Greedy!


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